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Peg O'Brien has a birthday today. New comment added.
Nov
27
Nov 27, 2020 at 3:05 PM

Posted on: Nov 27, 2020 at 4:33 AM

Susan Halewood Crosby posted a message. New comment added.
Nov
24
Nov 24, 2020 at 4:02 PM

Posted on: Nov 22, 2020 at 2:59 PM

Lunch in Ocalla florida.
Dick n Paula Lord,Betsy n Wes Turner n Sue n Rich Crosby. 160 years of marriage at one table. Good to share n laugh once again.

Tim Cox posted a message. New comment added.
Nov
21
Nov 21, 2020 at 12:50 PM

Posted on: Nov 21, 2020 at 10:52 AM

Ray Homes asked about Deane Ford's early demise. He was killed in a car accident. I used to work with his mom and remember he passed just a few years after graduation. He was a nice guy.

T. Geoffrey Hale posted a message. New comment added.
Oct
16
Oct 16, 2020 at 5:20 PM

Posted on: Oct 16, 2020 at 9:23 AM

Happy birthday fellow gymnast.

Elizabeth(Bonnie) Austin Tegen added a photo to her profile gallery. New comment added.
Jul
31
Jul 31, 2020 at 10:42 PM

Posted on: Jul 31, 2020 at 10:22 PM

Peg O'Brien posted a message.
May
25
May 25, 2020 at 6:17 PM

Remembering our classmates who served and those who are no longer with us. Let us be thankful and appreciate their service. Happy Memorial Day to the class of 64.

Roger Watson posted a message. New comment added.
Apr
10
Apr 10, 2020 at 3:39 PM

Posted on: Apr 08, 2020 at 6:18 AM

Things are a bit different in our world today since I last wrote anything on this web site. Since then, it seems that the Coronavirus has filled our lives. Perhaps, for many of us, we find ourselves living in fear and anxiety of contracting this virus or at least concern for our family and friends.

I am not writing to say we should ignore the virus. It's tough to ignore if you have it, but COVID-19 is only one of many things that rip out our hearts and rob us of life and those of our loved ones. Our lives will go on until they don't.

I want to encourage, ask, plead with you not to hunker down and take shelter from life. I do not believe I am to spend my life living in fear and anxiety of my coming death. It will get here when it does, and until then, I need to make the most of the time that I have. No, as far as I know, my death is not imminent, but I know, you know, it is not far away. So be it.

One of Theodore Roosevelt's most famous quotes expresses my thoughts better than I can.
"Far better is it to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure... than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy nor suffer much, because they live in a gray twilight that knows not victory nor defeat.

Why am I carrying on about life, death, and viruses? I want to share with you a letter (email) that I received yesterday that made me realize how great a gift of life I have been given. I received permission from Debbie Bliss to share it with you.

Dear friends,

A new chapter has begun for David and I am really sad and ask for your prayers, for him and for me.

On Saturday morning he was incontinent twice and seemed unable to walk. He could stand up but he couldn't get his feet to move. I tried to get him to walk to the dining room and he kept saying "I'm coming" but his feet wouldn't move. He was leaning on his walker and I tried to lift one of his feet and he fell over backward and hit his head on the chest of drawers. Philip came over to help me get him off the floor into a chair for some breakfast and then he went back to bed. I called our health provider - it took over an hour for a nurse to call me back and she recommended that I take him to the Emergency Room. Philip helped me get him into the car and into a wheelchair at the hospital.

Because of Covid-19 I couldn't go into the hospital with him. They took him in from the sidewalk. The hospital was strangely quiet. Everyone is staying away as they await a deluge of Covid-19 cases, which hasn't happened yet. He has spent two nights in the hospital and had a cat scan and blood work. There is no physical damage apparent, but he still will not walk. A nurse told me that she and an aide tried to get him into bed from his wheelchair and it was such a procedure that she felt scared for him and for herself and the aide.

I feel I can no longer take care of David at home. Last week he became aggressive with a caregiver who has come many times and so she had to leave. The next day she came back and he wouldn't accept her again. So I did not get two breaks that I was counting on and I was overcome by a feeling of helplessness and I sobbed uncontrollably. He did accept his Friday caregiver, so I got a break for 6 hours. But he was unhappy and his tendency toward aggression has increased.

Aggression, incontinence and immobility are too much for me. I decided the time has come to put him into a care facility. I have arranged for him to go directly from the hospital to a small residential board and care with six beds. It's two miles away, run for 8 years by a retired nurse from the Philippines who is a Christian. He will be sharing a room with another man and there are 3 women patients there. I will not be allowed to visit him while the Covid-19 virus precautions are in effect. I took over some of his clothes and some photos and personal effects yesterday, along with a check for the first month plus deposit.

Then I came home and have been weeping on and off as I grieve the end of our time of living together. We have been married for 47 years and living in this home for 4 1/2 years. I had anticipated spending our sunset years together here in this lovely place with the expansive views that we both have enjoyed so much. I know he will miss me and being here in the comfort of our own home. I feel guilty for abandoning him. I feel selfish in making the choice to preserve my own quality of life, instead of giving him the ever increasing care he requires. His ability to care for himself had already drastically reduced - he could no longer bathe himself, dress himself, put himself to bed (he could still feed himself once I put food before him - and I would reheat it multiple times as he eats so slowly). I had increased his medication to try to control his aggression but he was still becoming more agitated. And now with incontinence and immobility I felt I would not cope. The caregivers who have been coming in have only helped with preparing meals and keeping him company - not bathing or changing him or helping him walk.

The grief is heavier than the relief at the moment, but I do believe it was the right decision.

I won't be able to visit him in his new residence until the Covid-19 restrictions are lifted and hopefully that will give him time to adjust. When visiting is allowed again, I will be close enough to see him frequently.

So please pray with me for David as he is moved from the hospital to the care facility today, for his peace and protection and that he would be able to walk and interact in a pleasant way with the caregivers and other patients, especially his roommate.

love,

Deborah

I spoke briefly with David about three weeks ago, and I knew that my premonition from my visit with David and Bob Biederman, last summer, that I would never again see the David that I knew was now a fact.

David would not want my sympathy, and he would shake off any pity that I would spend on him. David was all about how he lived. David was my friend. If it is good enough for David, then it is good enough for me. I recognize that David is moving on to another stage of his life, and this one I can't share with him.

My dear classmates and friends, my wish for myself and you, is that we will be carried back from the battles of life on our shields, having given all that we have to offer.

May we live the rest of our lives not in fear but in the hope that we will make a difference in this life regardless of how short the time. Be strong, live well.

Semper Fi

Peg O'Brien has left an In Memory comment for Robert Boudrot.
Mar
26
Mar 26, 2020 at 4:33 PM

I talked with Bobby at our 50th class reunion.  He was very happy to be there and see many of our classmates. He told me that he had been sick for many years due to agent orange from serving in Viet Nam.  I don't think he ever had much of a healthy life after coming home.

Another lost due to a awful war and very difficult time in our lives.  Thank you Bob and all the veterans especially from our class and the city of Newton for your service.

GOD BLESS you all.

Susan Halewood Crosby posted a message. New comment added.
Mar
17
Mar 17, 2020 at 10:53 AM

Posted on: Jan 04, 2020 at 7:23 PM

Hi all NNHS Floridians. ....wish you would join us here in New Port Richey on Jan 13th. 2020. For a get together.call me Sue Halewood Crosby 774 836 6907 or Betsey Stafford Turner 603 520 7828 for details...

Peg O'Brien posted a message. New comment added.
Jan
01
Jan 01, 2020 at 8:42 AM

Posted on: Dec 31, 2019 at 12:08 PM

Wishing the classmates of 64 a very Happy and safe New Year. Hoping you enjoy peace and joy in 2020.

Best Regards to all,

NHS Class of 64 Reunion Committee.

Bob Biederman posted a message. New comment added.
Dec
09
Dec 09, 2019 at 11:14 AM

Posted on: Nov 25, 2019 at 5:22 PM

Just following up on Crosby's news of Marty O'Gorman's death: Can we have him listed in the "In Memory" section?

Bob Biederman has left an In Memory comment for Martin O'Gorman.
Dec
08
Dec 08, 2019 at 8:33 PM

O'Gorman was a friend when there were few. He was certainly a standout football running back and a great homeroom companion. I just wish I had the words to describe what a real guy he was and how much his friendship meant to me.

Roger Watson posted a message. New comment added.
Dec
02
Dec 02, 2019 at 3:08 PM

Posted on: Nov 04, 2019 at 8:53 PM

Today, my sister-in-law died. My sister-in-law’s name was Vikki, and she died in her sleep. We heard her death rattle around 4:55 a.m., and my wife pronounced her sister dead at 5:00 a.m. on Monday, November 4, 2019.

My wife hit her boulder in her path at the same time. My rock wasn't quite so big, but I stumbled over mine at the same time. We had a quiet moment of suffering for our loss. We were thankful Vikki's journey had ended, so did her pain. We reached out to each other to hold hands and begin helping each other around the stones in our paths.
Why am I sharing something as personal as a death in my family?
I have said several times that as a class, we are a family. I hope that by sharing my thoughts and feelings, you might feel encouraged to share yours as well.

I did the eulogy so many years ago at my grandmother's funeral. She and my grandfather were always there for me, as I have said before, I owe my life to them. I loved them so much.

The following was a favorite of my grandmother's and helped direct her along her path. It also helped Vikki. Maybe, just maybe, it will help us.

Lord! Give me strength just for Today.
To do the tasks that come my way. To say the word - to think the thought, with which real strength of soul is wrought.
Lord! Give me the courage to resist the urge to worry or persist in borrowing from future years, trouble unknown, or futile tears. Just for Today, Lord, let me find true strength and faith and peace of mind.

And for tomorrow, I will pray - when it becomes the new Today.

All of life's burdens are easier to deal with when shared by good friends. I know we all have troubles, and I know we have good friends. Let's ease each other's burdens, after all, what are friends for?

There’s no day quite like today. Let’s begin!

Roger Watson posted a message. New comment added.
Nov 28, 2019 at 12:31 PM

Posted on: Nov 27, 2019 at 4:32 PM

I am 73 years old. Tomorrow I will be able to celebrate my 73rd Thanksgiving. As a New Englander, I have always felt like Thanksgiving is more of a New England thing rather than a national holiday. If you are not initially from New England, I suspect there would be an argument over that statement, but if you are from one of the six New England states, you know what I mean. The rest of the nation is lucky; we are willing to share it with them. They are so jealous they probably created Black Friday to distract the unknowing from focusing on our holiday.

As I grew older, I recognized that what I found myself most thankful for what had already happened. I was focusing on being grateful for what happened in the past. I also realized that the things I was offering thanks for were not guaranteed; there was nothing that I knew for sure would happen. Being a classmate of yours was not guaranteed, but I am thankful that I was. Heck, living in Newton, growing up in Newton in the late forties and fifties, was not guaranteed, but I was blessed to do it. My survival in Viet Nam was not guaranteed; neither was going to and graduating from the University of Maine. Marriage, kids, divorce, mistakes made, lessons learned none of those were guaranteed.

Reaching the age of 73 and having the opportunity of sharing a word with friends and classmates was not assured. Nothing in my life, wrong or right, good or bad, was guaranteed. What we think, what we say, and what we do, have consequences intended or not, but the results are not guaranteed.

Being thankful is not all about looking back; it is sometimes looking forward. Since death seems to be the only guarantee in life, all that we can say about the future depends on the time available. Given that, what are you thankful for in the future? I am grateful for the opportunity to change. We have said before that while we show gratitude for something in the past, we can't change the past. The present is what it is and cannot be changed. Only the future can be changed. I am thankful for that opportunity to change. It would be a shame to waste it.

Tomorrow, Thanksgiving Day, my wife, Pat, and I will sit down for our steak dinner. I know it is a bit non-traditional, but it is our hand raised beef, and we are thankful that we have it. Friday, we will go traditional with some of our children and grandkids, but tomorrow it's steaks on the grill.

Food aside, we will be thankful for many things that have passed, Pat's sister's life, the incredible response from many of you to myself and my wife that none of you even knew with only one exception. The experiences that you and I have shared this past year is high on my list. We shared the sadness of the deaths of some of our classmates while celebrating the achievements of others. I felt a bond of friendships, a renewal of friendships, and even new friendships that I have not known in many years. Yet I am even more thankful for having the opportunity to see how we can grow closer together, how we can learn to help each other and lean on each other.

The opportunity to change, the opportunity to make a difference, is the only thing that we can be thankful for in the future. Let's not only put that opportunity high on our list of things, but let's go all the way and be thankful for the better persons we are about to become and the chance to make a difference for good in the lives of people that surround us.
Be blessed. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving. Be thankful for not only what has happened, is happening, but for the opportunity to make good things happen. Thank you for being here. You've made me a better person.

Roger Watson posted a message.
Nov 28, 2019 at 10:14 AM

Sometimes in our lives, we all struggle for many different reasons but that's life. Something else is also life and that's having friends and family. You have played a major part in my life somewhere along my path and I want to thank you. I would not be who I am without you, at least the better part of me. On this Thanksgiving, I felt that the following quotes express something that we have felt or maybe are even feeling now and this is a good reminder to focus on what is truly important in your life and mine. Happy Thanksgiving.

"What a wonderful life I've had! I only wish I had realized it earlier." - Sidonie-Gabrielle Coltette

"Note to self: I won't let my grief, illness, losses or suffering blind me to the beauty and blessings that surround me. Without negating my losses and struggles, I must seize what joy I can and not let what I am going through overshadow all the good that remains." - Debbie Kay

Semper Fi